Motherhood Mistakes: Don't Allow Yourself to be a Doormat

In the fourth week of #MotherhoodMonday, we are talking about mistakes we've made through motherhood. I had a hard time narrowing a post for this week. I had a really personal post I was going to type up, but I'm just still not ready to share it.


When I think about it, I've made a lot of mistakes as a mom. Yelling, being on social media too much, procrastinating, etc. We definitely all make mistakes and we will never be perfect parents. But I've had to be easy on myself and realize that I'm probably not screwing my kids up as bad as I think I am.

I would have to say that my biggest mistake in motherhood is caring too much about what others think and then allowing that to influence my parenting. Obviously, from the name of this blog, you may gather that we aren't the most mainstream people out there. We have chosen to do things a little differently from the "norm". But does that make it wrong?

A certain family member has made a habit of butting heads with me in the past over how I parent my children. This person thinks that a lot of the decisions I make are wrong, because they aren't typical. I have learned in my early adult years that what is right for one person's family isn't always right for some one else's.

Because I let people influence my thoughts way too much, I don't think I made the best decisions possible. I was too afraid of what others would think. I didn't want to disappoint everyone. In the end, my kids were the ones feeling a little disappointed and wondering why mom wasn't who they are used me being.

Ladies, I encourage you to stand strong as a mother, wife, sister, girlfriend, partner, or whatever you are. Don't be afraid to be yourself and have faith that you are making good decisions for your family. Don't be a doormat! Since I've realized this, I've been a lot happier. I'm much more confident and that shines through as an example for my children. They are much more confident as well, which has resulted in a much happier family atmosphere.

As always, if you are interested in joining us for #MotherhoodMonday, please contact Lisa at The Mother Blog

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Comments

  1. I think we've all had those moments where someone told us something about our mothering and it caused us to doubt ourselves. I've learned to trust my gut so much since becoming a mother :)

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  2. When people are uncomfortable with something, their defense mechanisms kick in. I think more often than not, comments from others about our mothering and whether it is right or wrong is based out of something within themselves. They are feeling some insecurities about the way they do things and feel a need to defend what they know when they see someone doing something different. I've had to learn to remind myself it's not about me, it's about them. I wish more people could embrace the many forms of mothering and parenting. It would make things so much easier and make everyone feel more supported in the long run! Great post!

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  3. "Don't be a doormat." Yes, I'm still learning this! Great post!

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